When I’m feeling down, I pick a date on my calendar and organize an event for me and some friends – bridging connections between people is one trick I use to “elevate” my internal sense of status.
16 Feb 2017
Part 2: On Investing and Resourcefulness
From reselling Craigslist-purchased phones to buying discounted groceries, there are countless easy, crafty and legal (!) ways to be resourceful on a daily basis.
27 Jan 2017
Designed for the Team
We’re “designed” for status, in a sense: we’re supposed to be part of teams and groups. And I do want to be a part of that team. Although status isn’t something I think about much, now that I’ve achieved it intellectually (as my work has been highly regarded) I feel great!
05 Apr 2017
It’s a Trap!
With social status, one of the traps is the comparing yourself to others, and that was another lesson my mom taught me at a young age, she always would say - this is like, kind of rough for a young child to hear - but she would always say, 'Someone's always going to be prettier than you, Jena, someone's always going to be smarter than you, Jena, someone's always going to have more money than you,' and I was like, okay, like, I get it. But, that has served me well because as far as social status or social climbing, like, that never really meant anything to me because I always knew that the kind of game of comparisons was a game that I would always lose, and it's a game that's very painful, and it's something I always wanted to avoid.
01 Jun 2017
From “4-Hour” to Full-Time
I grew up in the Philippines, where life centers around your honor and name, but status doesn’t define me. For two years, I worked around the world as a coach and lecturer and I basically had a “four-hour” work week. What made me decide to leave this lifestyle and put in long hours at the NBA was the fact that I never grew up with a mentor, and I want to use the status I earned to become someone that other Filipinos could be inspired by.
08 Mar 2017
My mom worked 80 hours a week
I have to understand that I am abundant, and any time I think I’m lacking, I must reject it. I grew up very poor. My mother moved to New York when I was 5 to escape my father, working 80 hours a week just to avoid going on welfare. She gave me the idea that I have the ability to do things by myself. #money #poverty #abundance
18 Apr 2017
The Future of Education
I sent an email to principals, students and thought leaders recently asking “what does taking the lid off education mean to you?”. To my surprise, I received a large variety of answers: the future of education is open to many possibilities. At its core, we need to give students an outlet for their humanity. #mentor #change #knowledge
18 Feb 2018
I don’t know any brands in nature
Social status has nothing to do with nature, it is a completely made up phenomena. Your status is you were born on the Earth and you make your life the way you want it to be, how you feel it’s right. You can’t take it with you when you die and you didn’t have it when you were born.
17 Nov 2016
People can smell the bullshit
You want people to like you and your work. The difference comes when you compromise your integrity because you’re worried they others like you. People can tell when you’re being authentic or fake. While I care what people think, I don’t let it change the way I create. #integrity #authenticity #create_art
10 Jun 2017
I write down all my spendings
It has been hard for us to agree on what's necessary and what's frivolous. But we save and we worked on paying off our debt. We have a budget and we stick to it; I write down what I spend every day. Financial freedom comes from being aware. #financialfreedom #money #budgeting
03 May 2017
Meeting Oprah: With Social Equity, Patience Is Key
I met Oprah at a barbeque. I saw how people reacted with a sense of urgency to meet her and it was an important lesson for me. With social equity and human capital, patience is key. So I held back and waited for the right time to connect. #mindfulness #elite #connection
23 Jun 2017
You Have to Tell the World What You’ve Witnessed
I wrestled with the question of whether to share when I teach somewhere dangerous or notorious, especially in this age of social media. A mentor told me that I have to share my experience. It’s not about showing off. It’s about telling others what I’ve seen. #moralcompass
23 Jun 2017
I didn’t have a cellphone for 6 years
I recently got a phone because social media is impactful and it allows me to spread the word of loving yourself to a larger audience. If i’m going to use my image for anything, it’d be for social justice, to impact those less fortunate than I. #society #socialjustice #socialmedia
16 May 2017
Giving to charity was the best part of working on Wall Street
If you are spending money on experiences and helping others, then yes, money can bring happiness. When I worked on Wall Street, my happiest times were when I gave to charity. It feels good to give to others.
30 Mar 2017
Social status in this day & age
In the digital age social status is huge, with people working to build large networks on different platforms. It’s important to me, especially in the business I do, but it’s not the end all be all. #digital_age #social_status #large_network
08 May 2017
Social Media and Face-to-Face Connections
Social media can be an incredible tool. Think of the speed at which we are able to scale our messages. People can now connect and find answers from across the world. At the same time, I still value face-to-face connections. Don’t make people compete with your phone for attention. #society #socialmedia #connection
05 Oct 2017
A lesson from my taxi driver
I had a conversation with a taxi driver who immigrated to America from China, chasing the American Dream. When asked if he achieved his dream, he said no because he is always working - all he spoke about was money. I saw that money can bring us happiness only to a certain level. #financial #wellbeing #money
07 Jun 2017
A Professor’s Perks
As a tenured professor, I have more stability than most. As long as I can do what I want to do, I’m happy, and I don’t think much about the excess beyond that.
31 Jan 2017