Tom Shaner
Songwriter, Performer, Producer, Video Director, New York
Tom Shaner is a New York City-based songwriter, performer, producer and video director. He calls his music “ghost songs, waltzes and rock & roll.” His music is informed by many things, including American roots, sixties soul, films, books and more.
Productivity
Setting Deadlines to Impose Order
I have a method for productivity which has to do with setting deadlines. I find deadlines very important; it’s like having a competition with yourself. Deadlines are important to impose order because our thoughts are chaotic. #productivity #timemanagement
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Loving Yourself
Harboring Resentment Becomes Self-Harming
Thomas Merton said when you harbor resentment, the sword passes through your own heart first. A well constructed thought like that is like a hammer in your toolbox. It reminds me that harboring resentment becomes self-harming. #selflove #selfawareness #harmony
29 ноя 2017
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Finding & Defining Love
Slip Into the Masterpiece
Leonard Cohen said in a song, “you lose your grip and then you slip into the masterpiece.” Perhaps our tendency to want to resist something that possibly will only nurture you and make you stronger is one of the greatest crisis in the human psyche. #findinglove #beinghuman
29 ноя 2017
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Dealing with Anxiety & Depression
Getting Out of the Diorama of the Human Ego
When I’ve been in dark modes, my tendency is to figure out what I could do or could’ve done better. There may be self blame that occurs, but realize you’re only human and it’s okay to be sad sometimes. In especially dark times, I find it’s important to be in nature and get out of the diorama of the human ego. #depression #anxiety #escapingarut #beinghuman
29 ноя 2017
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Bonds, Breakups & the Essence of Relationships
Show Children Life Can Be Fun
When you have children, remember you invited them here. It was a choice and love that choice; children are funny and they can surprise and challenge you. I remember being a child and the parents I knew that seemed fun made me excited to be an adult. I’d rather be the adult that can show children that life can be fun. #parenting #family
29 ноя 2017
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The Role of Religion
The Beauty and Dangers of Religion
I’m not a member of a religion, but I like the questions religions ask. I like it when religion helps people, but it can also be very dangerous. At times it’s beautiful and at times it can be dangerous. #religion
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The Role of Religion
Religion in the Eye of the Beholder
I once heard that those who interpret their theologies as prose become jihadists. Religion is in the eye of the beholder. My mother is a wonderful example of a religious person; she’s not out to change anyone else’s ideology and respects them as humans. #religion #respect #beliefs
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The Role of Religion
I Found A Different Way to Look At Religion
I was raised Catholic but at age 16 I broke away. I liked certain things about going to church as a kid, but there were certain elements that felt archaic. Then a teacher gave me a book called Zen Flesh Zen Bones, and it gave me a different way of looking at these questions. #religion #beliefs
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The Pursuit of Happiness
All The Things That Make Me Happy
There are a number of things that make me happy. Looking for the opportunities for laughter, delicious food, beauty, whimsical wandering, being in nature and by water, music, film and creativity makes me happy. Happiness is an active thing for me. #happiness #creativity #joy
29 ноя 2017
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Being Alone & Feeling Alone
Loneliness and Being Alone Aren’t the Same
You can feel lonely if you feel misunderstood. It can make you feel not seen. I don’t mind not being alone; it’s something I value. However, loneliness is different than being alone. #loneliness #aloneness
29 ноя 2017
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Being Alone & Feeling Alone
Unmooring Yourself from a Life Calling
Loneliness in some cases might be due to unmooring yourself from a deeper yearning. For example, you’re meant to be a painter but you work at a company and are too tired to paint. Years go by and you don’t bother trying to be a painter anymore. #loneliness #lifepurpose
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Being Alone & Feeling Alone
To What Degree is Melancholy Indulged?
For many people, loneliness is a constant companion in life. I think loneliness is a big part of our psychological makeup. There’s a certain amount of melancholy that’s a part of our consciousness. The question is, to what degree is it indulged? #loneliness #aloneness #humanexperience
29 ноя 2017
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Bonds, Breakups & the Essence of Relationships
Nurturing Your Children
I tell my children I love them everyday. I want their minds to feel cared for, and that someone in their intimate life welcomes them here. #parenting #family #love
29 ноя 2017
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Bonds, Breakups & the Essence of Relationships
Honoring Each Other’s Solitude
Sometimes you go further than you want in letting go of the errant nature of your mind to be present in the relationship. You need to honor separate identities as well. The poet Rilke talked about how marriage can be honoring each other’s solitude at times. I find the most important aspect in any relationship is laughter. #relationship #respect
29 ноя 2017
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Bonds, Breakups & the Essence of Relationships
The Greatest Trap of Love
One of the greatest traps is loving someone while wanting to change bits of them at the same time. People don’t change because you tell them to. If there are traits you wish to adjust in someone else, it’s probably a doomed relationship. #relationship #romantic #respect
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Bonds, Breakups & the Essence of Relationships
Are You Both Hearing the Same Music?
Thinking about the essence of a healthy relationship, it has a chance of working out if you both hear the same music. You need to be hearing the same general themes of life. A relationship also has a chance if there’s also an inner silence between you two, where you accept the other person’s flaws and virtues. #relationship #romantic #couple #connection
29 ноя 2017
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Finding & Defining Love
Uncovering Love
I believe in the Gnostic gospels, Jesus was asked when will Heaven appear, and he answered that it’s all around us but mankind doesn’t see it. We know that love is real. Maybe love isn’t something you find, it’s something you uncover. #findinglove #love
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Finding & Defining Love
In the Tide of Love
I’ve always been drawn to the idea of being in relationships.There was a period of time where I felt that I could love but I didn’t know how to receive it. I wrote a song about it called The Tide of Love. #love #relationship #romantic
29 ноя 2017
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Dealing with Anxiety & Depression
Learning to Ride With the Waves
The poet Rumi once talked about welcoming sadness as a guest in your house. If you fight against the nature of things, you might be more vulnerable hurt. When you’re in the ocean you work with the waves. The good and bad times can flow. The challenge is learning to ride with the waves. #sadness #darkness #hope
29 ноя 2017
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Finding & Fulfilling Our Purpose
The Natural Energy of Enthusiasm
While I don’t feel comfortable saying my life purpose is one thing, I’m a naturally enthusiastic person. That enthusiasm feels like a natural energy. I feel drawn to create, share with others and laugh. Among my purpose is to keep virtues of humour, compassion and creativity in play. #lifepurpose #creativity
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Finding & Fulfilling Our Purpose
Decisions We Make Engage in a Purpose
There are many purposes to life. On one hand, there’s an indifferent field of energy, for example we can find a sunset beautiful but the sunset doesn’t feel back for us. While life may be abstract, decisions are made that engage in a purpose. #lifepurpose #purpose
29 ноя 2017
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Money, Society & Status
I Don’t Believe in First Impressions
I don’t believe first impressions are correct. They might be correct more often than not, but when they’re incorrect, things get interesting. If someone has let me down and it felt harmful to me, I usually end up taking responsibility for my part in it. What in me was vulnerable to this? #socialstatus #vulnerability
29 ноя 2017
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Money, Society & Status
Status Through Hard Work Versus Economic Status
When someone has achieved status through hard work, I respect them for the status they created for themselves. What impresses me is who they are as a person and the work they do. #socialstatus #beinghuman
29 ноя 2017
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Money, Society & Status
I Don’t Assume Traits In Relation to Status
When you study music and learn about certain artists who have come before you, you naturally don’t think about their status as more important than the kind of person they are. I’ve seen enough in life not to assume anything about who someone is as a person in relation to their status. #socialstatus #credibility #value
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Money, Society & Status
Traveling as a Paid Musician
I’ve enjoyed traveling and getting paid as a musician to see new places. That’s how I saw most of America. I wasn’t thinking of it as a need to earn money, but as a way to support my travels. #money #freedom
29 ноя 2017
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Money, Society & Status
Earning Money Doing Something I’m Connected To
Money hasn’t been a priority for me, but I should improve my relationship and understanding to it. I’ve always tried earning money doing something I feel connected to. I’m trying to look at money as a tool and a means to an end. #money #financialfreedom
29 ноя 2017
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Productivity
The Stages of Creating
There are several stages of creating: it starts with inspiration, and then comes the work. Another stage of self doubt can come up, but something inside you tells you not to forget that idea. This is when another wind of inspiration can come through. Within that entire process there’s a lot of criticism, but you can’t create uncritically if you’re willing to share your work. #creativity #inspiration #productivity
29 ноя 2017
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Loving Yourself
She Left Helen of Troy in the Dust
William Butler Yates wrote a story called Dust Hath Closed Helen’s Eyes. It’s about a farm girl who was so beautiful people came from afar to gaze at her, but she became uncomfortable with the attention and ended up jumping off a cliff. The moral is when you have vulnerabilities, people will have their way with you. You’re given an opportunity in life to understand what part of you is vulnerable to being hacked. #selflove #selfesteem #vulnerability
29 ноя 2017
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Loving Yourself
The Chiming Consciousness Deep Within Us
Is there something deeper within the self? Is the self merely an entry point to something greater? Perhaps the wisest men alive knew that deep within us is a chiming consciousness which we are all connected to. #selflove #selfawareness #conscience
29 ноя 2017
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Loving Yourself
Has Technology Removed Us From Self-Connection?
You hear stories of people sacrificing themselves for others in a moment. That’s when self love is at its most acute and it comes from some primal source. Those of us with access to technology and social media can get pulled further away from that primal self love. #selflove #socialmedia
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Loving Yourself
Resonating Love Begins Within
Hearing the phrase self love can be confusing. Is that a road to narcissism, or enlightened behavior? I think being a better person to others starts with some degree of self respect or self love. That feeling within can resonate love with the world. #selflove
29 ноя 2017
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Achieving Harmony & Balance
The Melody of Life Is in Your Breath
Finding harmony starts from your breath. We can feel the melody of life in our breath which brings potential for more harmony. It can be difficult to find harmony within yourself when there’s so much injustice and suffering in the world. Perhaps we could work towards a better world by finding harmony within, starting with our breathing. #harmony #mindfulness
29 ноя 2017
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